No matter the relationship, betrayal can take on many forms. Betrayal can be emotional, financial, sexual, spiritual or physical. So many questions fill your mind once broken trust has occurred. How can I ever be able to trust this person again? Should I stay in this marriage? When is my pain going to end?
Remaining passive while someone undermines a relationship is teaching the individual that respect for you in not necessary. Betrayal must be confronted aggressively, holding the betrayer responsible for his or her choices and actions. Often individuals want to continue in their abusive behavior without losing the person it is destroying. You may have heard the saying: “He wants to have his cake and eat it too.”
It is important that you listen to your intuition and get the help you need to break the silence, sort out your chaotic emotions and defend yourself. Find out what steps are necessary for you to take when your trust is betrayed. If restoration is the goal, then the individual who caused the offense must be convinced that the consequences for their actions are a reality. When remorse is genuine, the betrayer acknowledges the hurt he caused, is broken in heart and spirit and will go to whatever lengths are required to rebuild your trust.
“Therefore I will not restrain my mouth; I will speak in the anquish of my spirit; I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.” Job 7:11
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