Communication In Marriage: Making Time For Each Other
I see communication problems in marriage all the time. Many couples claim that they don’t have enough time to spend with each other. Their busy careers and taking care of their children eat up all of their available energy and time, leaving them feeling depleted at the end of each day.
Does that sound like your marriage?
According to ABC News, there is a spike in divorce statistics that takes place after the kids leave home. In 1990, 13% of all marriages ended in divorce once the kids had left home, and by 2011, that percentage went up to 28%.
Why the increase?
While there are a lot of different opinions on why so many couples divorce once the kids are out of the house, in my opinion, it all boils down to two people who simply didn’t take the time to invest in each other while they were married. Over time, it’s easy to feel disconnected from your spouse if you haven’t taken the time to keep getting to know each other. Sometimes couples understand the importance of communication in marriage, but instead of making the time to spend together, they wait for there to be time to spend together.
As you know, with your busy life, and all that you have going on with work and with your children, there will never be time to devote to your spouse. That is, there will never be time unless you make time.
Think back to your wedding. Did you have a unity candle ceremony? Many couples do, and even if you didn’t you’ve probably been to a wedding where the new couple took their smaller candles and used them to light one larger candle as a symbol of their new union. That ceremony has a special meaning for a marriage, and unless you wake up each morning with a new resolve to remain unified, the trials of life will eventually come between you and drive you apart.
Mark 10:6-8 says, “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
God’s plan is for your spouse to be your best friend. He wants to enhance your relationship in ways that you never thought possible. However, in order to do that, it’s vital for you to make the time to devote to each other. You will need to schedule this time, as it’s never going to happen unless you do. You’ll find that as you increase the time you spend communicating with each other, God blesses your marriage, and you grow to love each other even more.
If you find that you’re facing some issues that are too difficult for you to work through together, I’d love to help you. Sometimes you need a third party to partner with you in your journey toward improved communication. To make an appointment with Dr. Carol Erb, at The Beaufort Center For Marriage feel free to call or text me at 305-890-6987, or you can call my office at 843-379-0288. You can also visit https://drcarolerb.fullslate.com to schedule your own appointment online, at your convenience.
Don’t waste another minute wishing that you had time to spend with your spouse. Only you can make changes in your marriage. Why not schedule a date with him or her today?