Cheating on your spouse is bound to result in guilt. However, now that the deed is done, you’re wondering what you can do to fix your marriage. Whether you made a one-time poor decision, or you just ended an affair that has lasted for years, you’re desperate to put the pieces of your relationship with your spouse back together before it’s too late.
At The Beaufort Center for Marriage, we understand how you’re feeling. We’ve talked to many couples that were facing a similar challenge in their marriage. There are a few key things you should know about what to expect in the near future.
EXPECT YOUR SPOUSE TO GRIEVE
In our work with the betrayed spouse who has felt the pain of a cheating spouse, We can tell you that grief is a natural reaction. Whether you are the husband or the wife that cheated, your spouse is going to experience a sense of loss when he or she finds out what happened. It hurts to pour so much of yourself into a marriage and find out that your partner wasn’t faithful. Your job is to allow your spouse some space to experience the pain that will surely come as a result of your affair. If you give it time and allow your partner to work through the grief, you have a better chance of saving your marriage.
EXPECT YOUR SPOUSE TO MISTRUST YOU
Trust is one of the hardest things to earn once it’s lost, and a single act of infidelity can take it from you. It’s important for you to understand that once your spouse learns of your affair, he or she is not going to trust you, and it may take a long time for that trust to be restored. Patience is very important during this time period. You will need to understand that your husband or wife may call your cell phone more often, check your phone for calls and text messages, and even pop in on you from time to time at work. Again, be patient. You will re-earn the trust you once had if you demonstrate that you can be trusted, but it may take a long time.
EXPECT THAT YOUR SPOUSE MAY CHOOSE TO LEAVE
Unfortunately, when a spouse cheats, many marriages move towards a legal separation and divorce. While that’s certainly not God’s perfect plan for your marriage, it is a choice that your spouse may make. There are things you can do that may help save your marriage, and we would love to help you with that.
God wants nothing more than for your marriage to thrive, even if one of you has been unfaithful. The great thing about God is that He is never unfaithful, yet He understands our shortcomings. We would love to help to guide you toward the healing He has for you through His Word.
If you would like to make an appointment to discuss how we can help you, please call us at 843-379-0228. You can also make your appointment online using our convenient online scheduler.
Cheating hurts, and it can do a lot of damage to a marriage. However, the right kind of Biblical marriage support can help you both heal and grow closer than ever before.